Don’t let grumpy, cynical people fool you, Valentine’s Day is great. Even if you aren’t spending the day with someone you love, celebrating that love, that deep human connection you’ve made, then you have to acknowledge that it’s a day celebrating love! It’s a positive holiday. There is so much negativity in the world, why not spend a day celebrating love. Go back to being grumpy on Wednesday.
There aren’t a lot of days commemorating positive things, don’t crap on positive things. There are enough reminders all around us that the world is bleak and horrifying, lay off the things that are trying to remind us that life is also capable of deeply positive, profound experiences.
Professing your love for someone is no small thing. It means that you have opened yourself up, become vulnerable to another person and they reciprocated. That’s something definitely needs to be celebrated. Even if you are certain that you celebrate it everyday, there’s always room for a little more. Do you write a note professing your love every day? If so, that’s a little intense, you may want to back off.
I get it, I’m deeply cynical, I look at everything with suspicion with an underlying derision. Valentine’s Day could be seen as a made-up holiday to sell flowers and cards, but so what? So are all holidays. Do you think giraffes celebrate Christmas (which sounds like a Wings album)? We’re humans, we make up things to celebrate all the time. Marriage is made up but it still warrants celebration. Homes are a human invention, but we still live in them.
Single people, it’s okay to celebrate being alone on Valentine’s Day. Glorify the fact that you’re not in a bad relationship. Don’t curse other people’s happiness. Celebrate your own autonomy. Drink wine out of the bottle and binge watch something because you don’t have to wait for a partner to watch something with you and if you watched it on your own it would be seen as a bigger betrayal than sleeping with your partner’s mom. Just eat some pizza, pet your probably autistic cat and let people who are in love be in love.
It’s a positive holiday. Don’t be a grump. Nobody likes a grump. Thus ends my annual War on the War on Valentine’s Day. Let people like what they like.